Negative self-talk is one of the quickest and certainly the most convenient way to torture ourselves. People with and without mental health issues all do it. It’s universal. Now some people are better at controlling it, out-thinking it, or even stopping it altogether.
Those of us with mental health issues are not normally successful at stopping it. Those of us with anxiety disorders struggle hardcore.
I once read an article that said we say roughly 50,000 things to ourselves each day.
Seems excessive huh?
I was diagnosed with OCD 18 years ago and I can tell you that I am an overachiever in this area. My mind sees that and says…50,000? Hold my beer.
Stopping these negative thoughts is not possible for me. Controlling them…eh, not so much, but replacing them? Ah, now there lies my sweet spot.
Enter the world of positive affirmations.
I was introduced to these little bits of heaven when I first learned about Louise Hay. She is the queen, the goddess, the mama of Thought’s Become Things! I use affirmations all the time. I have my own personal ones and I pull from one of these treasures whenever I see fit.
Recently, I’ve been pulling an affirmation card from Kate Allan’s Thera-Pet deck. At first glance these cards seem like whimsically wonderful little messages but don’t be fooled, they pack a punch.
This week’s card initially made me laugh but when I really read the words, I saw that this may be the most on-target affirmation for me to work with.
You see, self-worth is something I have had to fight for and it’s ever so easy for me to slide back into old habits. ‘’stop calling yourself garbage’’ hits close to home because words like these have been uttered by me…. out loud yes, but more frequently internally.
Positive affirmations have helped me slow down negative thoughts, sometimes even stopping them. Having negative thoughts is normal. I’m not claiming anyone should be a Pollyanna, but when negative thoughts become constant or even consistent or hell even common practice, we are affirming them.
So if we are going to affirm something, we may as well try to make it positive.
This week when the negative stuff creeps in I will straighten my crown and remember who I am.
I am powerful
I am kind
I am amazing
I am a Blueberry Fairy Princess.
Do you use positive affirmations in your life? If not, are you willing to show yourself some kindness and give it a try?