Have you ever wondered why you seem to struggle with things that come so much easier to others? Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and questioned why you are not further along? Have you ever beaten yourself up because you slid back into old, comfortable (or possibly ridiculously uncomfortable) habits?
Do you count tough love, willpower and the dreaded comparison as your go-to tools of choice?
Why not try a kinder way?
Have you ever noticed that the most successful motivational speakers or self-help authors will be the first to tell you that they don’t have it all figured out? Most say something along the lines of….true personal growth comes from diligent practice and consistent learning.
Louise Hay, arguably the most influential person in the self-help movement called herself a ‘Lifelong learner’ and encouraged the daily practice of many different forms of self-care for healing. Never expecting us to get it right the first time…or the hundredth for the matter. (Did you know she started Hay House when she was 60??)
Wayne Dyer wrote roughly 40 self-help books. He’s THE expert on personal growth for millions of people! Yet I recall listening to a podcast where he talked about how he couldn’t imagine thinking that he knew everything and how important it was to him to continue to challenge himself and learn more.
I don’t know why we think there is something wrong with us when our broken bits resurface in our lives. We can heal our issues. We can grow and gather a lot of knowledge and understanding about who we are and why we are the way we are. We can even fix those broken bits. But in truth, there will always be fragile places inside of us. No different than when you glue broken pieces of a bowl back together. Like the bowl, you are whole, but on occasion, we may find ourselves tracing those cracks with the tip of our finger. No matter how thin the crack is.
AND THAT’S O.K!!
Failure is not in feeling the cracks. Failure happens when we set unrealistic and rigid expectations on ourselves. When we beat ourselves up for not living up to some idea we have in our heads about who we are supposed to be. It happens when we let other peoples progress dictate how or where we should be. It happens when we think in black and white or the extremes of all or nothing.
Here at A Kinder Way, I hope to motivate you (and myself) to take a different path. A KINDER, gentler one. I want to shine a light on how powerful self-care, self-love and of course self-kindness are. I hope to encourage our growth at whatever speed each of us is comfortable moving.
I hope you will join me down this kinder and loving path.
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